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The intimidating
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The softie
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A soft handshake demonstrates weakness, lack of confidence, lack of interest, and lack of masculinity. These are obviously the opposites of power and strength, important attributes in respected and successful people. I would suggest that if you do have a weak handshake, firm it up. This will definitely leave a better impression every time you shake hands. Pay attention to how much pressure is applied by the receiver and notice if your handshake is firm enough, then adjust yours accordingly.
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The four-fingerer
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I am sure this happened to you before. Someone takes your four fingers, not allowing you to really lock your hand with theirs, and then squeezes your hand hard. That is really frustrating and should be avoided. This can happen easily when rushed or simply by accident. My advice to you is to apologize and ask the person for a second handshake. It might sound awkward, but people actually remember this and will appreciate the respect derived from a real quality handshake.
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Step 1 - Make eye contact
Start a proper manly handshake by doing three things at once: first, look the person in the eye. If you?re sitting, stand up, and as you stand, quickly and discreetly make certain your hand is dry by pressing it against your pant leg. A smile isn?t necessary and may not always be totally appropriate when you give a handshake, but it generally will work in your favor. Giving the person you?re meeting the evil eye almost never will. This step, initiated by eye contact, is etiquette 101. Evading eye contact is a way to stir distrust. Making eye contact, however brief, is a proper and formal means of greeting anyone, and says as much about you as anything else you do from this point forward. Now, some time ago, standing up may have been reserved for greeting women, but today you should stand for both men and women to give a handshake. It is a basic sign of respect.
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Step 2 - Extend your hand
If you are being introduced to someone or introducing yourself, extend your right hand with your palm facing due left to give a handshake. Do us all a favor and neither lock your elbow so your arm is part of a joust nor tuck your elbow so far in that you?re making a right angle. Somewhere in the middle works just fine. Remember, you are opening yourself up to a greeting; it can be a position of vulnerability, but neglecting to accept a handshake is an even greater foul. Yes, there are people who cannot, for whatever reason, shake hands with their right hand. Former Senator Bob Dole is a notable example, which is why he often carries a pen in his right hand. By and large, however, if someone can?t use their right hand, the onus is on them and they will make the correction. If you extend your right hand to someone who can?t use theirs, it?s nothing to be embarrassed about and nothing for which you need to apologize -- just make the adjustment.
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Step 3 - Grip firmly
I think we all know what it means to grip firmly. No need to prove your strength -- this isn?t the gym and it?s not a scene from Over The Top. When you give a handshake, grip as tightly as you would a baseball bat or a golf club prior to your swing. From there, according to famed etiquette guru Peter Post, ?two or three pumps are all that?s needed.? To reiterate: The grip is where a lot of guys spy a moment to flex, to show who?s boss. If you meet one of these guys, play your poker face and do your best not to react, in either direction, to this sad little display. Just keep up your end of the bargain and grip like a man.
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Step 4 - Release
Finally, the last step in giving a proper handshake involves the release. Etiquette says to go with the flow, since some people prefer a longer handshake, but you should be prepared to let go after those ?two or three pumps? and try to signal as much by relaxing the muscles in your hand. Hanging on any longer can make some women uncomfortable and some guys as well. A handshake is a social convention that communicates a lot about us. The key is to toe the line: Clinging to another?s hand too long creates an awkward situation, while releasing too soon exudes its own level of discomfort.
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